May 27, 2008
Hi guys,
I am dating a guy who will not talk about the future and does not welcome any questions about what the relationship means and where we are going. He is 36 and I am 32, so I feel like I am ready to tie the knot but he considers that after 2 years of being on and off, we need to strenghten the relationship before talking marriage. In the meantime, he tells me that the last time we broke up he slept with two different women for a few weeks. The worst foe me is that he is all about sex, he can never be with me for a day without sex and he says that the reason is that he wants me all the time. He gets upset if I want romance for a day or even one night. Our most fabulous time together will end in a fight if I don't want to have sex. I am loosing my mind because he refuses to talk with me beyond sex and stupid topics, he never buys me anything even for my birthday and I am doing so much for him and for the relationship. He won't acknowledge anything I do for the relationship and whenever I mention something I did for us, he says that I do nothing for nothing, that I am always calculating etc. Please help me, at times, I just want to hit him or kill myself
by Doc Rogers
Dear Anonymous,
Dump him. He has no respect for you. Sex is important in a relationship, but it's not the only aspect of a relationship. If he can't meet your other needs, i.e. your need for romance, your need for a more fulfilling life, then he doesn't deserve you. Dump him and look for someone who can meet your needs. Otherwise, you'll marry this selfish jerk and be unhappy for the rest of your life.