July 28, 2008
I have been good friends with an ex-boyfriend since we broke up last year. In the beginning of the relationship (about 2 yrs ago) he was very sweet and sensitive and caring, but after 8 months, it all seemd to stop. Granted, things in my family/personal life were in a bit of an upheaval, and I know C.s. tried to be there for me, but in the end, he wound up reverting to insensitive, selfish habits - i.e. cancelling plans with me if a 'better offer' came up with his friends, etc. We ended on good terms - good enough that our friendship was still solid, and we continued to have sex with each other in the absence of other suitors.
By coincidence, we both moved to Seattle after college, and we hadn't seen each other for about six months. We are still seeing each other as if nothing has changed, but he is back to being the charming, funny, elusive/mysterious man I was so attracted to. He is aware that I started dating some people via the internet, but he still has yet to date anyone since our split a year ago. He has made hints recently about not wanting to 'label' our friendship, and desires it to just go as normal. But... being a woman, I need clear definations and boundaries as to what this is, so I know whether or not to seriously persue another relationship.
Is he just feeding the need to have someone close? Or is he trying to ease back into a relationship?
by Mack Cassidy
He's totally trying to ease back into a relationship.
Whether its a romantic relationship, or he just wants the casual sex isn't to clear to me.
I'd watch yourself though, relationships usually end for good reasons, and more often than not, trying again leads to the same ends.
Good luck